Why looking after dad’s mind is family care, not a luxury.
Children of fathers who have psychiatric disorders are around twice as likely to develop psychiatric or behavioural problems themselves, according to research published in The Lancet by a University of Oxford team. What’s striking is timing: men are most prone to many common mental health difficulties during the same life stage they’re most likely to become fathers—roughly ages 18–35.
Why this matters
Historically, the mental health of mothers and its impact on children has (rightly) received a lot of attention. But as fathers and non-birthing partners play ever larger roles in childcare, the ripple effects of men’s mental health on the family become clearer. This isn’t about blame; it’s about widening the lens of family wellbeing to include everyone who shapes a child’s daily life.
Barriers for men—and how to lower them
Many men still hesitate to seek help for depression, anxiety or alcohol misuse. Stigma (“I should cope alone”), fear of being judged, and services that feel less male-friendly all play a part. Public efforts are improving access—see the push for male-specific support highlighted in the new mental health campaign for men—but change also starts at home: partners, relatives and friends can make it safer to speak up by asking twice, listening more than fixing, and normalising support.
Practical steps fathers can take
- Talk early to your GP. A short check-in can open doors to support before problems snowball.
- Use evidence-based tools. Cognitive behavioural therapy (including digital options) is well-studied and accessible; here’s more on computerised CBT and how it works.
- Move your body. Regular physical activity can meaningfully reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety and improve sleep—see how exercise helps you beat depression for simple, realistic ways to start.
- Dial down alcohol. Cutting back often improves mood, energy and patience at home.
- Share the load. Agree small, predictable routines (bedtime, bathtime, meals) that keep you connected to your child while giving your partner breathing space.
Support that helps the whole family
Open, age-appropriate conversations about feelings teach children that tough emotions are normal and manageable. If you’re struggling, saying “Dad’s having a hard day, but I’m getting help” models courage—not weakness. When parents feel stuck in conflict or isolation, couple or family sessions can help; even a few guided conversations can change the tone at home.
Trusted help now
For clear self-help guides, treatment options and urgent-care advice, see the NHS advice for men’s mental health. If you or someone close to you is in immediate danger, call emergency services.
Bottom line: Looking after a father’s mental health is an investment in his children’s future. If asking for help feels hard, remember you’re doing it for the whole family.